They’re comes a time when enough is enough! Stop Fucking around and just create change!
If you’re unhappy, angry, sad, hurt, jealous, mean and dramatic…and don’t like it. Then change it! There’s always a choice! It’s never anyone else’s fault, you choose to be what you are. Nobody makes you that way!
If you’re sick of being angry about something…then stop being Fucking angry! If you’re tired of being sad…stop being Fucking sad. If you’re sick of fighting, just stop!
If you are waiting for someone else to change before you can be happy/be nice/move on/get over it…this is a cop out and a poor excuse not to change your own SELF.
The “I can’t until he/she does…” doesn’t work. It never has and never will. Trust me, I tried for years!
When you start doing you and focusing on your own changing…a miracle occurs! Really…your fucking world changes. When you finally give up the victim attitude and take responsibility for your own happiness that is when you will find happiness.
“As above So below, As within So without”! If you’re shitty on the inside…guess what? You’re world and everything and everybody in it will be shitty. If you choose happiness, GRATITUDE, and love…this is what your world and the people in it will reflect back to you. But it is up to YOU not “them”!!
Your joy it’s not your mommy’s/friend/sister/neighbor/lover/husband/wife’s responsibility! When you make it their responsibility…you give your power away! You give them the power to make or break you.
Now, all that being said…I realize there are certain extenuating circumstances, that may or may not be out of our control, that create negativity in our lives. Such as illness (depression, bipolar, PTSD, there’s alot of nasty ones), natural disasters, death, mean shitty people, vampires, slimeballs. There are things outside the realm of our control that contribute to our own negativity…
but here’s a different perspective…
Are these things REALLY out of our control? The only one I can think of that we have absolutely no control over…mother nature! Death is also out of our control, but our reaction to it…is not! Be sad, grieve, mourn and memorialize! Just don’t live there! This is a different discussion for later…❤
Okay, sure you can’t control other people and the things they choose (even if you think you can, manipulation is not control), BUT you can control your participation with these people and their choices. You can control your reaction to their slimy shitty ways.
**sometimes we have to participate because there comes a point when we need to take responsibility for allowing someone to hurt others and stop them. Would you let a human abuse another human in front of you, because it’s “not your business, live and let live”, or would you step in and help because at some point continuing to allow it to happen makes you just as accountable?
Illness, this is a tough one. I suffered from manic depression for years…until I didn’t want to suffer anymore and I began to take an active role in changing it. Of course it didn’t happen over night, but I found a good doctor, I reached out, I took medication until I didn’t need it, I researched natural approaches That led me to yoga, meditation, energy healing and divinity. I started forcing myself to focus on GRATITUDE (there’s that word again) and all the beautiful things I had to be happy about. Sure, these things didn’t always work. I had bad days, weeks, months…but I will tell you this: once I chose to beat it, to stop owning it, and to take an active role in my mental health… I GOT BETTER!! every day was a struggle but I knew I was getting better and headed for full recovery…so I chose to forge on past the rough days, clawed out of the dark and kept trying until I found the solution. Even when it was impossible…I kept going. Because THAT MOVING IS THE HEALING…there was never any “end result” or “outcome”. I just chose a different path…a different perspective.
If you want change you are going to have to be the one to create it.
Let go of being a victim…it really doesn’t serve you.
Let negative people fall away from your life. Sure, this is hard and it sucks sometimes, but it’s very liberating and I promise the journey is alot less bumpy without the slime balls, vampires, negative nancys, drama queens,..even if you can’t eliminate them all together, you can reduce your participation in their antics. Pull back…love them from a distance.
Don’t sit around waiting and looking for silver linings…CREATE THEM!❤
You may feel like this post lacks compassion…that’s okay, one day you’ll be able to read it and feel the love pouring out of my heart for you!
This post is not only full of compassion, but passionate, personal and divine!😉
The point is, you do have the power to create change. One simple choice to let go and be happy…sure, you may have to make this choice a hundred times a day, and that’s ok! By making this choice you are creating new patterns, new habits, and a new perspective! Soon it will only be 50 times a day, then 10, then one…one time a day, when I wake up I choose happy! I chose love!
We can’t always do this alone. We need people in our lives who will support our changes and choices, love and encourage us in our journey. We need those people who are willing to kick us in the ass and help move us forward! If there’s someone, or several someones who don’t do this for you…reduce their participation in your life. You’ll be better off for it.
I am only here to love you! I choose everyday to love myself unconditionally, no matter what…and that my dear ones, allows me to do the same for you…I am here for you always!!
Love is a big word! Perhaps the biggest word in the human language…but used so frivolously that it has lost its true meaning. However, that’s a different post all together…
Until next time!